M Swing – Way of Life

Today I would like to speak about the dreams and goals. Well when you are here and read this post that means that you are actually unhappy with your life. When you are unhappy you would like to change something. I think that there are two sorts of people who like to change something: 1. those who are unhappy with current situation and that is all, they know what they do not like but have no ide what they would like. 2. those who are unhappy and they have some dream or goal which they like to realize or achieve but do not know how to do this.

For first group it is very important to set goals. For second it is very important to set correct goals. When I ask to someone what is his or her dream most common aswer is: money, or wealth or power… This was my ultimate goal at the begining also. I want to have more money I said to myself. Let me tell you something: money cannot be a goal itslf, money is an instrument, a mean to achieve your goal – and very powerful one but it cannot be a goal.

I have been reading lot of self improvement books and all of them are speaking alot about the  importance of setting goals and having a dream. They also stress that in lof of cases people do not really know what they would like to achieve in life. That is true. Except of money and wealth it was very hard for me to find the answer on the question what is my goal and what will happen when I have ahchieved it. The books later offer very long, several pages test in order to help you and set goals. They are ok but too long for my taste.

I myself use two mind experiments to find out what is my goal. First I imagine what would I do let suppose I get lot of money. No limits are set in this experiment or limits are set only by your imagination. For long term goals simply imagine that you are king of universe or like and you have everythign you like. What would you do with this money? So this is then your life goal as simple as that.

Second experiment I like most. It shows you why money cannot be the goal itself. Now imagine that you are sitting in the room which is neraby empty like one on the picutre above. Now further consider that you can get everything in your room what you request: this can be material and immaterial, I do not care: you even can get 1 billion US Dollar there. But remember this room is your only world and things you request are usable only in these frames. Now will you request 1 billion US Dollar to have delevered in the room? I bet you will not because it will not make you happy at all. You simpy canot use it.  I bet you will wish something like: to see people you love and value or to have something which makes your life comfortabe and etc. That means that not money itself is your gaol but things you can get with money and people you can make happy with your money. So just think about that and make a list. This can be everything you can have fun with in your empty room. For instance imagine that this room is very large and you can use the Frerrai in it. If, independently of money and social status, that makes lot of fun for you then Ferrari is your goal. After that you can set “buy Ferrari” at your goal list .

What I would like to say is that first you need to set goals and only after work on it. Money cannot be the goal. So today just make room experiment and set goals.

I remain!